I'm going through a hard time in my life now. I had ever asked one of my good friends JV "how could you go through so many years with your hubby? When he makes some mistakes, have you ever think just kick him out and split?"  Then she told me “Maggie, I have been there. I have been through so many things, and when I was young, I just wanted to walk through the door and never come back… If I did so, I won’t be who and where I’m today. However I did forgive him and appreciate all the good and bad things we went through…”

After I heard it, I was so sad and also happy. She told me how to face and solve my big problem first time after marriage. I’m sad about life is always having so many problems. Also I’m happy about I talked to her and got to know how to handle those shiddy times about relationship.

每当我在人前强忍泪水, 假装欢笑时, 就会想起曾经在一个BLOG上读过的“左眼微笑右眼泪”. 每当我人升经历痛苦和委屈时, 我都好想就这样分手吧! 人生好聚好散嘛! 我有何苦大老远的跑到异国他乡来折磨自己呢?

可当我象我的一个好朋友JV含泪如诉苦时, 她告诉了我一个又让我喜又让我悲的答案. “MAGGIE, 我曾经经历过所有这些, 不止你说的, 人生还有更多比这要痛苦的经历. 当我年轻时, 我的确曾想过就这样一来走出这道大门, 不再回来… 如果我很多年以前就放弃了, 那我就不回是今天的我了. 而且我也就不会有两个可爱的孩子和今天的幸福了. 人生尤其是两个人之间是这样的, 时不时会有一些这样那样的问题.尤其是在开始的五到十年了. 最终在于我们如何化解它, 并站在一起去共同面对并问题…”

我听了之后, 好是感动. 我好高兴我和JV谈到了我的问题. 她告诉我的, 是我在任何地方都学不到的. 如果我就这样转身离去, 我是会很轻易的走出这段感情, 可下一段可能又会有同样的问题, 同样的考验的. 如果我每次都在这时放弃, 那么我永远都会停在这里, 永远也不会长大...就让我原谅他一次吧, 让我们共同面对问题 解决问题...